A letter

Many of you will have heard of the remarks of a state legislator in the American state of Oklahoma, where she said that homosexuals were worse than terrorists. Here, from Pam’s House Blend blog, is a response.

Rep Kern:

On April 19, 1995, in Oklahoma City a terrorist detonated a bomb that killed my mother and 167 others. 19 children died that day. Had I not had the chicken pox that day, the body count would’ve likely have included one more. Over 800 other Oklahomans were injured that day and many of those still suffer through their permanent wounds.

That terrorist was neither a homosexual or was he involved in Islam. He was an extremist Christian forcing his views through a body count. He held his beliefs and made those who didn’t live up to them pay with their lives.

As you were not a resident of Oklahoma on that day, it could be explained why you so carelessly chose words saying that the homosexual agenda is worst than terrorism. I can most certainly tell you through my own experience that is not true. I am sure there are many people in your voting district that laid a loved one to death after the terrorist attack on Oklahoma City. I kind of doubt you’ll find one of them that will agree with you.

I was five years old when my mother died. I remember what a beautiful, wise, and remarkable woman she was. I miss her. Your harsh words and misguided beliefs brought me to tears, because you told me that my mother’s killer was a better person than a group of people that are seeking safety and tolerance for themselves.

As someone left motherless and victimized by terrorists, I say to you very clearly you are absolutely wrong.

You represent a district in Oklahoma City and you very coldly express a lack of love, sympathy or understanding for what they’ve been through. Can I ask if you might have chosen wiser words were you a real Oklahoman that was here to share the suffering with Oklahoma City? Might your heart be a bit less cold had you been around to see the small bodies of children being pulled out of rubble and carried away by weeping firemen?

I’ve spent 12 years in Oklahoma public schools and never once have I had anyone try to force a gay agenda on me. I have seen, however, many gay students beat up and there’s never a day in school that has went by when I haven’t heard the word **** slung at someone. I’ve been called gay slurs many times and they hurt and I am not even gay so I can just imagine how a real gay person feels. You were a school teacher and you have seen those things too. How could you care so little about the suffering of some of your students?

Let me tell you the result of your words in my school. Every openly gay and suspected gay in the school were having to walk together Monday for protection. They looked scared. They’ve already experienced enough hate and now your words gave other students even more motivation to sneer at them and call them names. Afterall, you are a teacher and a lawmaker, many young people have taken your words to heart. That happens when you assume a role of responsibility in your community. I seriously think before this week ends that some kids here will be going home bruised and bloody because of what you said.

I wish you could’ve met my mom. Maybe she could’ve guided you in how a real Christian should be acting and speaking.

I have not had a mother for nearly 13 years now and wonder if there were fewer people like you around, people with more love and tolerance in their hearts instead of strife, if my mom would be here to watch me graduate from high school this spring. Now she won’t be there. So I’ll be packing my things and leaving Oklahoma to go to college elsewhere and one day be a writer and I have no intentions to ever return here. I have no doubt that people like you will incite crazy people to build more bombs and kill more people again. I don’t want to be here for that. I just can’t go through that again.

You may just see me as a kid, but let me try to teach you something. The old saying is sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will never hurt you. Well, your words hurt me. Your words disrespected the memory of my mom. Your words can cause others to pick up sticks and stones and hurt others.



I can’t add anything to that. I think I’ll borrow MadPriest’s accolade for people who go above and beyond the call of duty as Christians, and say that Tucker is my


16 Responses to “A letter”

  1. hickbear says:
  2. therevin says:

    Hey you’re in London now? my sister’s practising law there… wanna make an extra friend?

  3. chrishansenhome says:

    Sure, why not. The more the merrier. I’ve been in London for more than 14 years now.

  4. therevin says:

    well you could email her at carrie.lee@linklaters.com

    and mention that you’re my friend. Name’s Devin here. Her name’s Carrie. She’s practising law there

  5. hickbear says:

    Of the many sadder-than-sad facets of Ms. Kern’s bigotry, and they seem to be numerous, to me the Singularly Saddest is this: her own son is supposedly gay.

  6. mrpandabehr says:

    Wow, this letter is really awesome. I hope she sent a copy to Sally Kern.

  7. gmjambear says:

    Re: Kern’s son

    I read that as well but unless he speaks up for himself, it’s not been confirmed. Then again, it fits an obvious pattern. (e.g.: Phyllis Schlafly’s eldest son, Alan Keyes’ daughter, Randall Terry’s adopted son.)

    Some people will never get it.

  8. chrishansenhome says:

    So when are you coming to visit?

  9. therevin says:

    around oct i think

  10. chrishansenhome says:

    Good/ We may be in Singapore in September so we must have dinner or lunch then and reciprocate when you get here.

  11. therevin says:

    that’s good. keep me informed. by the way my msn is devin_84@gmail.com. my email is devin84@gmail.com.

    drop me an email, will you?

  12. chrishansenhome says:

    The email address you gave above bounced back to me…but I did add you to my MSN…

  13. therevin says:

    what’s ur msn? that’s weird… why would it bounce… it’s devin84 no underscore for the gmail

  14. chrishansenhome says:

    it’s the same as my email addy: chrishansenhome at btinternet dot com (replacing the words with the obvious characters).

    I’ve added u to MSN, i think…will try again.

  15. smlee4 says:

    thanks for sharing the letter…

    i’ll link it from my page…

  16. linklaters_girl says:


    I work at Linklaters, i know your sister and her boyfriend Matt. She talks about you a lot.

    Hope Singapore is good!